If you'd prefer your cabbage a little softer, slice first and sprinkle with a couple pinches of salt. Give it all a good smashing with your hands/fists - almost like you were going to make sauerkraut. Let sit for up to 15 minutes. Combine the rest of the ingredients. Sometimes I'll prep three cups of cabbage in this way and add the last cup of cabbage at the end for a mix of cabbage textures.

Since I'm not always the tidiest cook sometimes I'll throw all the ingredients into a bowl with a lid and give it a good few shakes instead of "tossing" the salad. Less spillage usually.